Ensure span data quality for all Node performance instrumentation

[mydea]

We need to ensure we have the correct op, origin, and good names, for all spans we emit via OpenTelemetry.

### Tasks
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/pull/12107
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/pull/12108
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/pull/12106
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/pull/12130
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/pull/12139
- [ ] Ensure Hapi spans have good data
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/issues/12234
- [ ] Ensure MySQL spans have good data
- [ ] Ensure MySQL2 spans have good data
- [ ] Ensure GraphQL spans have good data
- [ ] Ensure Redis spans have good data
- [ ] Ensure Postgres spans ahve good data
- [ ] https://github.com/getsentry/sentry-javascript/issues/12103